It’s that time of year. Everyone is excited to be surrounded by family and friends. However, if you’ve recently gone through a separation, this Christmas might be a little different. You and your children can still enjoy the magic of the holidays with a few basic tips from a Calgary family lawyer.
Family Lawyer Tip #1: Don’t Make Your Kids Choose
Depending on the custody arrangements that you have with your former partner, and the advice given to you from your family lawyer, there might still be some uncertainty around where your children spend the Christmas break. This is a decision you, as parents, should make on your own. Including your kids in these decisions will be stressful for them and put them in the middle of the parents they love. Your children should never be put in the middle or asked to choose between their parents. Remember, you should always be willing to compromise a little bit, and keep the children out of any disagreements between the adults.
Family Lawyer Tip #2: Focus on What Matters
Even without having to navigate the stress of co-parenting or a child custody agreement, this can be a stressful time of year. Instead of dwelling on all that could go or has gone wrong, focus your energy on the things that are within your control. Don’t make it a matter of which parent “wins” for the best meal or the most fun traditions or the most gifts. In order to make this time of year enjoyable for your children, create memorable one-on-one moments with them and schedule these special plans around your agreed or ordered parenting arrangements.
Family Lawyer Tip #3: Make New Traditions
You’ll want to maintain a semblance of normalcy for the sake of your children, but some holiday traditions may be difficult to continue. Try to keep some of the old if you can, but also try to make some new traditions. Think about special activities that will be fun for you to enjoy with your children on your own and get them excited about establishing the new normal.
Family Lawyer Tip #4: Take Care of Yourself
A key to keeping your children happy is making sure you don’t run yourself too thin. Family lawyers often witness newly single parents struggling to provide the same level of holiday cheer that their children are used to, and often, parents can feel a lot of pressure or burn themselves out. Taking the time to cater to your own feelings, as well as being sensitive to the emotions of everyone involved, is the best thing you can do for your children.
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